Sunday, February 5, 2012

Career and Love

Career and love are both important for grown ups, but these two things—as they say—are difficult to handle. To have a career is a way for people to feel established and independent. Some people find and develop their individuality with their careers. Love, on the other hand, can make people feel valued and loved as well as make them feel capable of valuing and loving another person. There are people who feel empty when they are without a partner.

Most people say that it is much better to focus on one’s career while one is young. I agree with this because it’s the moment in everyone’s life when they have the time and energy to be dedicated in their work. Those who are young and successful are much prepared to love, because they are already secured with their career and they can handle the responsibilities involved in caring for another person.


 Meanwhile, what could possibly happen to those who choose to focus on love first instead of their careers? All their life, they would be waiting for someone to love them while their careers would be left hanging on the sidelines. Perhaps they would be able to find the love that they’ve been waiting for, but would such a relationship last long? I guess it would be hard to believe the saying that “love will keep us alive” when people do not have an established career yet. One can have the best partner in the world, but living a good life is questionable when neither partner has a secured career. The result of such relationships can sometimes end up badly.

What if some are able to find their dream job and true love at the same time? Well, it’s all about balance. I believe that it’s much better to celebrate one’s successes with a loved one instead of simply giving your self a tap on the back for a job well done. It’s definitely nicer to receive a warm fuzzy hug that screams “I am proud of you” from some one very important. I see nothing wrong if these two things, love and a good career, are present in a person’s life at the same time.

When one finds both love and a good career at the same time, they should learn how to compromise. Compromise is meeting the other person half way. If a partner truly cares, they will understand whatever the other is going through. Both partners need to support each other, not hinder one another. True love is hard to find. Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is not. An ideal relationship would require both individuals involved to always understand each other and practice compromise.

Written by: Janine Daquio
Edited by: Katrina Pulvera
Photo: Pinterest

17 comments:

  1. You are right "falling in love is easy but staying in love is the real question", it takes a lot of maturity for someone to remain or stay in love with each other. With too many separations happening around even with those married for decades, we ask "what happened?" All I can say is first love yourself, then love for the right reason. Just like a career, "you have to love what you are doing" if you don't find another job =)

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  2. I guess there'll be time that career will be a priority and at times love but you are right there should be a right balance for this.

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  3. I agree with the balance here. For example my husband is working in a famous university which he gained more recognitions and all but even though, he chose to just be simple quiet and work at home and go only at the office for meetings and all. He don't want to be so rich thinking that he would be in so much stress thinking about work. He wants it just plain and still getting what he wants. hihi =)

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  4. These two things should not be considered jointly for there is a conflict. If you love you should love. And if you give preference to your career you should handle it separately.

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  5. Good topic :) Seriously I would choose Love hehehe. yung career mahahanap pa as long as you have the skills dba pero ang true love minsan lang yan. pero bago ko xempre i choose c love sure ako na ready na rin ako at kaya kong ipagpalit c career :) #justmycents :)

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  6. Sometimes, it's difficult to balance the two but if you learn how to compromise as you said... everything will turn out just fine.

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  7. Balance is always the key but like a balance weight it would sway high and low, we just need to know that one shouldn't go so low and the other too high...

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  8. you're right about the balance about it... but when these things comes to life, you weigh it using your mind and heart... everything for the right time. Yahweh bless.

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  9. crystal clear! still, if I would advise my daughter, in the future, I'd say CAREER first without batting an eyelash! Lol!

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  10. Just like what other say, your success may not be complete if you have no special someone to share it to. I think both success in career and relationship can still happen.

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  11. Many would think that it would be an easy choice between love and career until they come face to face with their own crossroads. Ideally, it would be wonderful to be able to balance both but sometimes reality does not provide it that easily. Essentially, it is a matter of personal choice and priorities.

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  12. Absolutely right here Sis :-) Love can wait :-) We have to work to survive to support our loved-ones and sometimes our sweetheart :-) True love can wait :-)

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  13. You're right career and love should be balanced but in my case over the past 8 years I had been working and now it's time to give love a chance. :)So I quit my job and stay where hubby lives.

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    1. good for you sis.. i guess it is the right time na since you have your self-fulfillment by maximizing your career for 8 yrs.

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